Spanish Wedding Customs

Weddings are joyous occasions around the world. Each country will have its own unique customs and traditions. Some of the most festive weddings anywhere take place in Spain.

Like the United States, Spain is a country that has regional differences. This means that although some customs are universal, each area will have its own unique traditions as well. You will see regional specialties reflected in wedding cuisine, flowers, and attire.

It was customary for a Spanish bride to wear a black silk gown with a black lace veil, which represented the “til death do us part” section of the vows. Many brides these days, though, may choose to wear the white gown that Americans are used to seeing. In Andalusia, some brides choose to wear a ruffled Flamenco style dress, in honor of that beloved dance. It is traditional for the bride to embroider a shirt for the groom to wear to the wedding.

If you were to walk into a bridal shop in Spain, one thing that you would notice is that the gowns there are all designed to have special and interesting details. You will not find too many of the plainer gowns that many American brides favor. Spanish brides are not afraid to dress up! That means gowns with ruffles, lace, or beadwork will a full set of bridal jewelry to match. Earrings with pizazz are an especially popular type of bridal jewelry. And no Spanish bridal ensemble would be complete without a gorgeous lace mantilla veil.

Flowers are an important part of any wedding. In Spain, you will tend to find that different types of flowers are used in the different regions of the country. For instance, in Seville, brides favor orange blossoms, which are known both for their wonderful scent and associations with fertility. Brides in Andalusia often carry pink and white roses, and all white bouquets are usually chosen by Castillian brides.

In many European countries, a wedding is a celebration that lasts well into the wee hours of the morning, and Spain is no exception. Ceremonies there often start much later than in the United States; a 7pm ceremony would not be uncommon. This makes sense when you remember that the Spanish are accustomed to eating a very late evening meal. Speaking of the wedding dinner, it will tend to feature local specialities, such as paella near the seashore. Red sangria is popular nationwide, as is a rich sponge cake with fruit and almonds for dessert.

One of the more unique wedding customs in Spain involves the exchange of a special box containing thirteen gold coins. These coins, which are blessed by the priest, symbolize Jesus and the twelve Apostles. In addition, the gold coins, which are given to the bride by the groom, represent that he will take care of her financially. The couple will also exchange wedding bands, which are worn on the right hand instead of the left.

Spanish weddings are very fun parties. Guest lists are usually large, and the dancing to the mariachi band will last into the next morning. The bride and groom dance a traditional wedding dance called the sequidillas manchegas. Favors usually include cigars for the gentlemen and something scented for the ladies. You can also expect firecrackers in celebration of the new marriage.

Whether you are looking for a way to honor your Spanish heritage or are just looking for some ways to make your wedding more fun, the wedding customs of Spain are a great place to start. There are many similarities between weddings in the United States and Spain, but there are also some things that are wonderfully unique to a Spanish marriage celebration. One thing is for sure: the people of Spain know how to throw a great party!

What Are the Main Difficulties in Learning Spanish For an English Speaker?

Vocabulary
50% of Spanish vocabulary is way different from English. What is more important, usually the differences are found in very common words which makes the trouble even bigger. No one could possible guess that the word ‘casa’ means ‘house’ or ‘coche’ for ‘car’. Also it is very easy to encounter one of the many ‘false friends’, that is, words that look alike in two different languages but whose meaning is not exactly the same. Sometimes they mean totally different things like ‘carpeta’ (file folder) and ‘carpet’ (alfombra) and some others (by far the worst situation!) their meanings are alike but not absolutely the same.

Apart from that, one of the most challenging areas for English speakers is the gender of nouns. All nouns in Spanish are either masculine or feminine and depending on that corresponding articles and adjectives have to be chosen. An example: ‘el cielo’ (the sky, masculine) and ‘la tierra’ (the earth, feminine). Some can even have both roles and have to be differentiated through the use of the accompanying article or adjective. So, we can use ‘el estudiante’ to refer to a student boy or ‘la estudiante’ for a student girl. Generally speaking, masculine nouns end in ‘o’ and feminine nouns end in ‘a’. However, this is not always the case and some of them are not regular. Once more, the exceptions affect very usual words, making it hard to easily recognize them. Here are some very common ones: ‘la mano’ (hand, feminine), ‘la foto’ (photo, feminine), ‘el día’ (day, masculine), ‘el problema’ (problem, masculine).

To end up, there are many widely used variations and derived terms to express certain nuances. For example, words ending with ‘ito/ita’ will indicate something small or alternatively something for which we show affection. You can see this effect in ‘la casita’ (the little house) or in ‘mi casita’ (not my little house, but my beloved house). Words ending in ‘azo/aza’ will indicate something big like ‘la casaza’ (a very big house). Similarly, words ending in ‘ucho/ucha’ would denotate disdain like ‘la casucha’ (a hovel).

Ser/Estar
In Spanish there are two verbs for ‘to be’: ‘Ser’ and ‘Estar’. You can read the explanations in a grammar book and understand them very well but it will be a long time before you will stop making errors when you speak. The usual explanation is that ‘ser’ is used for permanent things, for features that define the particular object you are talking about and ‘estar’ is used for temporary states. Choosing one or another can really change the meaning of a sentence. To give you an example look at these two sentences in English. ‘I am boring’ and ‘I am bored’. The first means that you are a boring person and the second means that you are temporarily bored by the situation you are in. These two sentences translated to Spanish would be ‘Soy aburrido’ and ‘Estoy aburrido’ respectively. For possessions you use ‘ser’, eg. ‘es tuyo’ (it’s yours) and for position you use ‘estar’, eg. ‘¿Dónde está el coche?’ (Where is the car?).

Sayings
The Spanish language has a very long history evolving from latin since the Middle Ages. That has made it collect many sayings stemming from the popular wisdom. Even we, natives, don’t know all the existing sayings, or are even able to interpret them correctly. However there are many that most of us know by heart and use in everyday life. ‘Poderoso caballero es Don Dinero’ or ‘Marzo ventoso y abril lluvioso hacen a mayo florido y hermoso’ are just two of those, the first one meaning: Mister Money is a powerful knight, and the second stating: if mars is windy and april rainy then may will be full of flowers and beautiful. Many times this type of rhymed sentences are the subject of conversation or are used to justify or argue a point. You can find lots of examples in the internet just typing ‘refrán’ at the search engine.

Slang
Same as in any other language, what people say in the streets is not the same as you can find in the newspapers. People tend to use more familiar constructs and words in day-to-day situations than what is considered as standard Spanish. The main difficulty with this is that this jargon evolves very quickly. Words are created and forgotten each and everyday. And even more, the evolution of slang is different not only in each Spanish speaking country but also on a region per region basis. A person speaking slang will be very likely not understood by other Spanish speaking persons not living in the same country.

Verbs
In contrast with the easy and extremely regular verbal tenses of English, in Spanish we find a great variety of verbal forms. Not only do we use more verbal tenses with different endings for each pronoun, but also the chosen tense might as well be used to convey a different meaning or our opinion on the things we talk about. Also, the subjunctive is used a lot in Spanish but not so much in English. For example, one of the most common uses of the subjunctive in Spanish is with ‘want’. An easy structure for a foreigner learning English could be: ‘I want you to do me a favour’. In Spanish you would have to say (literally) I want that you do me a favour (‘Quiero que me hagas un favor’). ‘You do’ would normally be ‘haces’ but because you have to use the subjunctive you have to change it to ‘hagas’ which is the subjunctive form.

Tú/Usted

Spanish has an informal and a formal form of address. Eg. ‘What is your surname?’ is:
Formal: ‘¿Cómo se apellida usted?’
Informal: ‘¿Cómo te apellidas?’
It is very difficult to know which one to use and there are different social norms especially in South America. The formal form is becoming less and less used in Spain. However there are occasions that could be appropriate or even mandatory.

Don’t get disappointed!

If up to this point you are getting disappointed don’t discourage! There are also a lot of advantages for the English speakers that learn Spanish. To name a few:

Vowel sounds in Spanish are very easy for you since there are only five (a, e, i, o, u). Phonetics are very simple.

It is very easy to write in Spanish. Once you have learned which sound corresponds to each letter you can easily write correctly in Spanish. The only difficult thing with writing is the accents.

The opposite is true also. Look at any Spanish word and you can tell how it is pronounced.

Even though 50% of the vocabulary is different from English, there is still the other 50% that is very similar if not the same.

Acronyms are almost always the same just changing the order back to front. Eg. ‘OTAN’ for ‘NATO’ or ‘FMI’ for the International Monetary Fund.

The grammatical constructs to make affirmative sentences, negative sentences and questions are also very similar.

If you don’t always say things properly (for example not using the correct tense of the verb, not using the subjunctive, or mistaking the gender) you will probably be understood most of the time so it’s not such a big problem.

This article was first published in number 2 of the free online magazine aprendespañol.com. You can see it and download it here. Check it out for other useful free resources to learn Spanish.

Tips For Getting The Gender Of Spanish Nouns Always Right

Getting the gender of basic Spanish nouns wrong is not only frustrating, but also highly de-motivating. In this article I give you an insight into what causes this problem and I help you overcome it from today.

My fifteen years teaching Spanish have shown me that learning and reviewing vocabulary the wrong way is what leads to those mistakes.

You may be wondering, then, if there is a way of learning new Spanish nouns that will allow you to get the gender always right. The answer, without any doubt, is ‘yes’. Here are the two steps you need to follow:

1. Avoid learning nouns without ‘el’ or ‘la’, and the same goes for reviewing.

2. Always learn new nouns with audio material, preferably audio flashcards recorded by native speakers.

Learning Spanish vocabulary through this method is fast, efficient and a great time-saver.

It takes the same effort to learn Spanish nouns with and without their articles. Learning them with ‘el’ or ‘la’ will save you valuable time and disappointment. As an example, remember to avoid learning that:

‘flor’ means ‘flower’

Make sure you learn that:

the Spanish noun ‘la flor’ means ‘the flower’

This simple step will help you link the word ‘flor’ to ‘la’ every time, the same way that Spanish speakers link them.

Vocabulary audio flashcards are those that give you a list of Spanish words said by native speakers, and they also give you their English translation.

The task of learning new Spanish vocabulary becomes significantly easier with audio flashcards. They are an essential tool for acquiring a good Spanish accent, and a powerful resource for reviewing efficiently.

Briefly, learning new vocabulary following the two steps I’ve described in this article is not only more efficient in the short, medium and long-term, but also much more enjoyable.